How can you have “the talk” so that your kids will listen? All it takes is a little Respect. Realize what they need to know and when they need to know it. Elicit their thoughts, attitudes, and feelings. Speak the truth. Present a positive, Christian attitude toward sex. Expect to talk about your own struggles when appropriate. Control your temper and the temptation to lecture. Teach your children what the gift of the body is really for.